Dressage: Cackling at the Canter.

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Beach attire for the serious dressage rider.

In the 80’s, I marched with the Ladies Against Women. Do you know the organization? They were a national group and there were two ways to join: You needed a permission note from your father, or a permission note from your husband. We marched in the Denver Do-Dah Parade, somewhere between the Lawn Chair Drill Team and the Basset Hound Rescue who had a dozen Bassets marginally harnessed and somewhat pulling an Iditarod dog sled. The Ladies Against Women carried signs with slogans like I’d rather be ironing. and 59¢ is too much. One of us was pregnant and barefoot, and we all seemed a bit shocked being out of our kitchens.

Things were going well until someone took us seriously and threw their soda. My pink sponge rollers got all sticky. And to think that feminists have a reputation for having no sense of humor… Pashaw.

Now here I am a few decades later, again affiliated with a group rumored to have no sense of humor. I’m not sure where Dressage got it’s stodgy reputation. Is it our age? We have been around for a very long time, being the mother of so many other riding disciplines. Is it that silly shadbelly coat and white breeches? It’s just tradition. I think you western riders understand that, taking so much pride in your hats the way you do. Besides, any rider who wears white obviously has a sense of humor.

In a way, a sense of humor is in our bylaws. The foundation of our Dressage Training Pyramid requires the horse has to be working through it’s back freely, relaxed and forward. Some riders read the small print differently, but we begin horses with the premise that a horse must be physically and mentally free from tension or constraint in order to use itself to the fullest. Give me a minute, I’m getting to the funny part.

Relaxed + forward = Happy horse. It’s a result you can’t get by fighting or intimidating your partner. If the horse needs relaxation, then the rider has to display it first. We carry all of our emotions in our bodies; in a sense we cue with our emotions. The horse hears the rider’s feelings louder than the actual cue most of the time. The best riding position in the world can’t make up for negative emotions in the saddle.

Are you in a perfection death spiral? The harder you try, the worse it gets, the more you want it, the harder you push, the harder you push, the more he resists. By now your sit bones are driving into your horses back like a cinder block and no kind of expensive saddle pad will lessen the pain. Your horse thinks you are a humorless Asshat. (Doesn’t that word make you smile?)

Be deadly serious about your riding. There is no denying how much it matters to all of us. But discipline yourself to laugh it off; find a way to ride with a light heart. If you want to control something, start with your emotions. Don’t do it for the judge or your trainer. Do it for your horse because a happy seat in the saddle feels better to him. Period. There is no better reason.

Riding appears effortless when we relax and ride like we don’t care. Yes, it is a lie, we all care too much. That’s the point. Spare your horse your elite riding dreams and play instead. Laugh your way to advanced movements. Yes, it’s counter intuitive, but riding is fun, remember?

The reason that we need to be serious about having a sense of humor should be obvious by now. You can’t force a horse to relax. Trying to force anything around a horse doesn’t work and makes you look like a jerk. Then the doorway to good work shrinks to the size of an eye of a needle. You can’t kick your way through that.  You are on a very slippery slope here and it’s your job to lead your horse to a better place. Yes, it takes patience and time to train a horse. But a sense of humor does make time pass more quickly.

Let your horse volunteer his best work, lightly and freely. Asked for by a light, happy seat and rewarded with a genuine smile and praise from the heart. Good Boy. Even if it’s not perfect, it’s a step in the right direction. Show your horse some praise and see what he returns to you.

While we are training them, our horses are training us right back. They teach us about humility first, humor makes that lesson easier to swallow.

The truth is to succeed at anything involving a horse you need a lightness of heart. Our passion for riding is deadly cruel without it. But serious isn’t the same as stodgy. Focused isn’t the same as dull. Most of all, forced isn’t the same as volunteered. Be deadly serious about riding, but do it with a chuckle and a guffaw. If nothing else, people will think you’re crazy and you’ll get more private arena time.

Crank up the music. None of the stodgy classical stuff, let your horse pick something out of your comfort zone on the AM dial. Find that saddle pad with the ducks on it and get out the rainbow leg wraps. Let out a howling whoop when you get that extended trot or cackle like a chicken at the canter. Wear a happy face on your full seat breeches and be a member of the Laughing Seat Riding Society. Your horse will write the permission note.

Lighten up, this is Dressage!

Anna Blake, Infinity Farm.

 

 

24 comments on “Dressage: Cackling at the Canter.

  1. Maria says:

    YAY! Just right. And right now, what I needed to hear. I will begin today with the goal of being a FORMER Asshat!

  2. Diane Lacy says:

    I have just recently been introduced to Anna’s blog through a riding buddy. I usually do not follow bloggers, but in this case I am addicted! Her humor is spot on, but her messages are perfect. How does this busy, creative, talented woman have time to write these blogs?? I don’t know, but I am so happy that she does!
    DB

  3. Liz Sterling says:

    Once again, Anna, you are spot on. And the hat is very fetching….thanks for making me think and smile. New word of the day: Asshat.

  4. Nancy says:

    Horses are in my past, but now I have agility dogs, border collies. So much is the same! And just today I needed a reminder that this is FUN, and we need to laugh along the way. Think horses are very aware? Try a black and white who lives every minute with you.

  5. MaryAnna says:

    I love it Anna, love it. Great blog among so many wonderful blogs.

  6. nadja says:

    Horses can be hilarious. My project horse tends to systematically destroy a jump with his legs before then walking over it (when asked to jump from the ground). He then looks at me with such a naughty face (all my fault. It was me who allowed him to explore in the first place). Once I asked for a maneuver, again from the ground, and he just left, walked straight behind my boyfriend, turned, looked over his shoulder at me, asking “what do you do now?”

  7. Sandra Murray says:

    Three cheers for the “Laughing Seat Riding Society”!!!

  8. Those Shadbellies really are so silly! I didnt know exactly what those jackets were called, what a great name! Thanks for the Friday lighten up talk. Much needed, was taking myself way too seriously- smiling again. Thanks Anna

  9. Betty & Daisy says:

    TERRIFIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS, DAISY

  10. terrybg says:

    When I first learned to ride dressage (40 years ago!) my instructor had us *shout* nursery rhymes. It’s hard to forget to breathe and tense up when you’re saying “sat on a tuffet” and doing a leg yield. I still use that exercise today – though I no longer shout.

  11. I blame the fact that most riding theory and practice comes from the military and you don’t get many laughs from making war and parading about. ;)

  12. eremophila says:

    “any rider who wears white obviously has a sense of humor.” – Absolutely!!
    I also was taught the use of nursery rhymes when I was a teenager, and followed it all my riding life. Another great article Anna, thanks :-)

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